pgsql: Fix possibility of self-deadlock in ResolveRecoveryConflictWithB

Fix possibility of self-deadlock in ResolveRecoveryConflictWithBufferPin().

The tests added in 9f8a050f68d failed nearly reliably on FreeBSD in CI, and
occasionally on the buildfarm. That turns out to be caused not by a bug in the
test, but by a longstanding bug in recovery conflict handling.

The standby timeout handler, used by ResolveRecoveryConflictWithBufferPin(),
executed SendRecoveryConflictWithBufferPin() inside a signal handler. A bad
idea, because the deadlock timeout handler (or a spurious latch set) could
have interrupted ProcWaitForSignal(). If unlucky that could cause a
self-deadlock on ProcArrayLock, if the deadlock check is in
SendRecoveryConflictWithBufferPin()->CancelDBBackends().

To fix, set a flag in StandbyTimeoutHandler(), and check the flag in
ResolveRecoveryConflictWithBufferPin().

Subsequently the recovery conflict tests will be backpatched.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/20220413002626.udl7lll7f3o7nre7@alap3.anarazel.de
Backpatch: 10-

Branch
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REL_13_STABLE

Details
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https://git.postgresql.org/pg/commitdiff/57c5ad168be1ce9a5e91adb4c576996921cd8627

Modified Files
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src/backend/storage/ipc/standby.c | 22 ++++++++++++----------
1 file changed, 12 insertions(+), 10 deletions(-)