> Community is people who joined it
We're not a "community." We're people using email to get help with or discuss technical aspects of PostgreSQL. The types of discussions that would normally be held within a "community" would be entirely off-topic here. We should be professional to each other here; we don't need to be buddies. There is a clear difference between "professionalism" and "community". A document governing interactions on this list is within the right of the moderation, but leaking into the "real world" is an abomination and perversion of what this group is.
My church group is 100% within their right to kick me out of teaching Sunday School if I were to have an affair. Teaching Sunday School is an act taking place as part of a community of people with a shared belief and culture. My job would 100% not be within their right to fire me for having an affair, as it's not a community, but a professional environment and my personal life is just that: personal. (Baring an ethics clauses signed when joining, I guess?)
Jim