remote psql

Hi,

I am trying to access PostgreSQL remotely with psql, and I am having some
trouble.  I am running the server with the -i option to allow Tcp-sockets
and the pg_hba.conf is configed to let my subnet access it.  I can access
the server locally and with the pgAdmin III on Win2K.  What is even
stranger is that psql works remotely with the -l or -c option, but when I
just try to connect it sits there, no errors(on the server either), no
nothing.

Here is what I have installed:
-FreeBSD 4.8
-Postgres 7.3(on both sides)

thanks,
Andrew Olson