"Upcalls" (sort of) from the database

Hi,

I wasn't prepared to ask this question, yet :<  but
all the talk of stored procedures, etc. suggests
this might be a good time to venture forth...

Humor me:  assume I have done the analysis and *know*
this to be correct for my situation  :>

I want to embed a good deal of the invariant aspects
of my application *domain* in the databases that
service it -- instead of in the applications riding
*above* them.  So, I let the database, itself, do
sanity checking of data on input -- if the database
rejects the INSERT, the application *knows* there is
something wrong with the data (instead of building
libraries to check each datum in each application
and *hoping* that the checks are implemented
consistently from one application to the next, etc.)

Anyway, the problem I have is how to handle cases
where the "database" needs user confirmation of an
action (!).  I.e. it has verified that the data
coming in is legitimate (adheres to all of the rules)
and *can* be stored in the appropriate tables -- BUT,
notices "something" that causes it to wonder if the
user REALLY wants to INSERT this data.  The database
would like to alert the user to what it has noticed
and get confirmation from the user (of course, I
mean my *application* wants to do this -- but, based
on observations made *by* the database, itself).

By way of example, the *toy* application I am playing with
to explore my implementation options is a "book" database;
it tracks titles, books, authors, publishers, etc.
The sort of thing a library could use to manage its
collection.

Assume the user tries to INSERT an entry for a "book".
Legitimately, this can be:
- a new title that the database has never seen before
- a new title by an author with other titles in the database
- an existing title thus another copy of that title

However, it can also just *appear* to be a legitimate new
title!

For example, the title may match an existing entry -- but
the author may be different (e.g., misspelled, or some
"other" author listed on a book having multiple authors, etc.).
Ideally, I would like the database to suspend the INSERT,
ask for confirmation (and "why") and then, either commit
the INSERT or abort it (based on the user's response).

Nearest I can imagine, there's only one ways I can do this:
issue a query that looks for these types of problems and
based on the result, let the *application* prompt the
user for confirmation.  Then, *if* confirmed, do the real
INSERT.

Is there a more elegant way?

Thanks,
--don