pgsql: Fix a few single-file (MODULES, not MODULE_big) contrib makefiles

Log Message:
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Fix a few single-file (MODULES, not MODULE_big) contrib makefiles that were
supposing that they should set SHLIB_LINK rather than LDFLAGS_SL.  Since these
don't go through Makefile.shlib that was a no-op on most platforms.  Also
regularize the few platform-specific Makefiles that did pay attention to
SHLIB_LINK: it seems that the real value of that is to pull in BE_DLLLIBS,
so do that instead.  Per buildfarm failures on cygwin.

Modified Files:
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    pgsql/contrib/earthdistance:
        Makefile (r1.19 -> r1.20)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/contrib/earthdistance/Makefile?r1=1.19&r2=1.20)
    pgsql/contrib/spi:
        Makefile (r1.28 -> r1.29)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/contrib/spi/Makefile?r1=1.28&r2=1.29)
    pgsql/contrib/tablefunc:
        Makefile (r1.9 -> r1.10)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/contrib/tablefunc/Makefile?r1=1.9&r2=1.10)
    pgsql/src/makefiles:
        Makefile.aix (r1.30 -> r1.31)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/src/makefiles/Makefile.aix?r1=1.30&r2=1.31)
        Makefile.cygwin (r1.14 -> r1.15)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/src/makefiles/Makefile.cygwin?r1=1.14&r2=1.15)
        Makefile.darwin (r1.12 -> r1.13)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/src/makefiles/Makefile.darwin?r1=1.12&r2=1.13)
        Makefile.win32 (r1.16 -> r1.17)
        (http://anoncvs.postgresql.org/cvsweb.cgi/pgsql/src/makefiles/Makefile.win32?r1=1.16&r2=1.17)