Re: Is it possible to stop sessions killing eachother when they all authorize as the same role?

Removing permissions also works for me.  In my case, I created a brand new PG14.5 cluster in docker and ran Tom's test case.

Your test code seems quite complex to test this simple case, but looking through it, it appears that you revoked permissions to pg_terminate_backend in the postgres database, but then connected as r1 to the play database, where the permissions weren't revoked.  You'll have to revoke the permissions in all databases or change it in template1 before creating the new database.